9 Sign You Are With The Right Person 2022
So you've met someone new who appears to be amazing. How can you tell if a relationship is meant to last? Can you tell if you've met the right person? I believe so, and Sophie Wills, a guest author, shares her thoughts on nine things that happen when you meet the right person.
Sophie, like me, met her partner while traveling (on a working holiday in Japan). While a holiday romance can be a magical whirlwind, it can also be an excellent litmus test for determining whether you've met the right partner for a long-term relationship.
And, whether or not you're traveling, being in an exciting, new relationship can cloud your judgment. Meeting someone new is exciting, and you are undoubtedly excited by the novelty and possibility. However, by looking for the right signs, you can determine whether your partner is a long-term keeper.
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Signs You’re With The Right Person 2022
When you meet the right person, you'll notice that the following 9 things become true:
1. You Can Spend Time Apart But You Don’t Want To.
If you truly want to know if you've met the right person, you should leave. Spend a month or two somewhere else. Hormones have been pumped into your system. It's no surprise you're unable to make logical decisions right now!
Play it by ear, but I recommend keeping it as light as possible. If it was just a fling, it might hurt for a week or two, but your feelings will fade quickly. If you've been dating for a while and your feelings haven't changed, it's a good sign that you want something more long-term. Is the time apart making you feel awful? Inform them!
Follow through on any life plans you made before meeting your partner. I am notoriously impulsive and frequently enter new situations with little regard for the consequences. This can result in some wonderful experiences, but it can also result in a disaster.
If you're making a big decision, such as moving to another country to be with your partner, take your time to make sure it's truly what both of you want. It's easy to get carried away, and you could end up in a bad situation far from the people who know and love you.
Make no promises you can't keep. It may feel genuine to tell someone you've just met that you want to spend the rest of your life with them, but it's simply not realistic. It's not fair to fill someone's head with dreams that are nothing more than that.
You might feel differently a few months later, and it's not fair to raise someone's hopes only to dash them when you realize you can't deliver. That does not mean you should give up hope. Make your emotions known. You'll never know if you don't ask!
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2. You’re Both Willing To Compromise.
A relationship should be built on compromise rather than sacrifice. If one partner is constantly buying plane tickets, changing plans, or giving up on their dreams, the relationship is one-sided and the other person's needs are not being met.
Remember that you are not always the victim - if you continue to ask your partner to make sacrifices on your behalf while refusing to compromise on any of your desires, it's time to reconsider your motivations.
In a loving relationship, you will work together to overcome obstacles, and compromise on both sides will be required.
3. You’re Excited to Tell Your Family And Friends About The Relationship.
I understand that some people have a strained relationship with their family. For some of you, this may be more applicable to friendships.
But if you've booked a flight to Thailand with your new love and haven't told anyone because you're afraid they won't take it seriously, it could be because you're not taking it seriously yourself.
This isn't necessarily a bad thing, but if you're serious about the relationship, you'll want to share its existence with your closest friends and family. When you meet the right person, you often want to shout it from the mountaintops.
You should also be concerned about your own safety. It's critical to keep loved ones informed because, regardless of your feelings, a new lover is essentially a total stranger. Even if you're not in physical danger, you could be in a bad emotional place if you don't have any friends to check in on you. It's a good idea to introduce your partner to your family or friends, even if it's via Skype. It's easy to isolate yourself and lose yourself, and good friends will pick up on bad vibes that you may have been ignoring.
Even for the most outgoing person, meeting friends and relatives can be nerve-racking, but your partner should understand why this is important. A complete refusal to interact with your extended social circle is a major red flag.
4. You’re Willing To Let Them Go.
This may appear to be counter-intuitive, but in a truly loving relationship, both partners want the best for the other.
Keep in mind that you do not own anyone. Trying to force a relationship can destroy it and tarnish your memories of the good times you shared together.
Love can be genuine while still failing to last. If either partner's happiness would be better served by them traveling alone, you must be willing to let them go.
It's natural to feel attached to your partner, but you can't be happy solely because of each other. True happiness comes from within. Your relationship should be the cherry on top. Your partner should make you feel wonderful, but only as an added bonus to your self-love.
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5. You Have Reasonable Expectations.
There is no such thing as a perfect individual or relationship. There will always be aspects of each other that you do not like. It only becomes a problem when you try to act as if this isn't the case.
Meeting the right person, on the other hand, tends to help us develop more realistic expectations. Perhaps this is because the right person for us will be someone who will assist us in maintaining a healthy, balanced, and respectful relationship. We also get a glimpse of what true love looks like.
6. You Can Discuss Anything.
I believe that honesty is always the best policy, but it is especially important when spending time apart. When you are not communicating face to face, it is easy for miscommunications to occur.
Address any problems as they arise and consult with your partner. There should be no topics that are off-limits. Allow your fears and frustrations to build up before jumping to conclusions based on insufficient or fictitious evidence.
Give your partner the benefit of the doubt in general. If you can't trust each other, your relationship is built on shaky ground, and you may not have met the right person.
When you are living apart or planning a major move to be with your partner, you may need to have some important conversations sooner than you would normally in a relationship. If you're taking a big step like moving to another country, it's critical that you and your partner are on the same page.
I'm not saying you have to choose baby names, but if your partner has always wanted two boys and a girl, as well as a litter of Alaskan Malamutes running around the house, but you can't stand children or animals, that might be something you want to find out before uprooting your life to be with them.
7. You Support Each Other’s Growth.
Is your relationship more than the sum of its parts? If you've met the right person, you'll collaborate as a team to become the best versions of yourselves.
You will celebrate each other's successes while commiserating over their failures. You will assist your partner in developing their weak points, and they will reciprocate. And you'll discover that sacrificing and giving for others has a transformative effect on you.
If you are both better people as a result of knowing each other, you will know when you have met the right person.
8. You Both Want The Relationship To Be A Success.
When it comes to the success of a relationship, I believe that intent is frequently overlooked.
The romantic notion that love is based on some kind of magical bond that transcends space and time and can withstand any adversity can be extremely damaging.
It downplays the amount of effort that goes into maintaining a healthy relationship.
Yes, a strong spark with your partner is essential. However, whether you've found the perfect "right person" or not, relationships require a lot of work.
If you are both willing to put in the effort and root for a positive outcome, your relationship is more likely to last than someone who romantically believes that love conquers all and you are simply destined to be together.
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9. You Share A Sense Of Humor.
Relationships are difficult. Cross-cultural and long-distance relationships are even more difficult. But if you can still make each other laugh when things are tough, you have a better chance of surviving adversity. There aren't many problems that can't be solved with compassion and a good sense of humor. This, in my opinion, is one of the most telling signs that you've met the right person.
As you get older, you realize that all of the cliches are true. And, while the adage "When you know, you just know" is certainly true, I would like to propose an updated version:
Give it a year when you think you've figured it out. If you still know after a year, you're probably right.
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