If He Says At Least 5 Out Of These 20 Things, Run

Today's men should come with instructions. They are sending mixed messages, saying and doing things that make no sense. 

Wouldn't the world be a better and more enjoyable place if we weren't forced to read between the lines and figure out what people were thinking? 

Unfortunately, the reality is different, but that's where we come in to try to assist you. 

There are twenty common things a man says that should raise an eyebrow. 

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If you recognize your boyfriend in at least five of them, flee because he is bad news. 

However, keep in mind that it will all depend on the situation; perhaps one thing he says will be enough for you to walk out on him, but five is definitely a warning sign that you should run for the hills and never look back.

1. “I’m not looking for anything serious right now.”

This sentence is the bait for you to fall into the trap of an almost relationship right now. It gives you hope that one day he will be ready, but the chances are that he will never be ready or that he will be ready with someone else. 

This is a win-win situation if you're looking for a casual hookup. If you aren't, don't waste your time trying to make things more committed, as you will only break your own heart.

2. “I am one of the good guys.”

He wouldn't need to say it if he was truly a good, decent, and kind person. The actions of good guys reveal who they are; they do not sing their own praises. Goodness is always quiet and modest. 

If he feels the need to explain who he is and what kind of guy he is, he lacks confidence and is most likely concealing some deeper issues or personality flaws. 

 So be cautious.

3. “You must be out of your mind to think that.”

This is a common sentence used by narcissists and other types of toxic manipulators to convince you that your sanity is questionable. 

They attempt to change your perception by convincing you that you are insane for believing they did or said something when you know for a fact that something else occurred. 

You usually end up apologizing for doubting them, despite the fact that you know deep down that they are to blame.

4. “I really can’t stand women who…”

There are some men who believe that a woman must do or say things that they consider acceptable. It is not the Middle Ages, and a woman has the freedom to be and do whatever she wants. 

If a man says to you something like, "I really can't stand a woman who: smokes, wears crop tops, eats healthily, wears too much make-up, etc." He will most likely try to change you to fit his world rather than accept you for who you are.

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5. “You are clingy.”

When you hear this sentence, you must be completely honest with yourself. 

Determine whether you are truly clingy (and how you can reduce your clinginess) or if you are asking him for things he should give you without hesitation. 

If you know it's not clinginess, but rather a severe lack of attention and affection, you should seriously consider ending the relationship. 

Whatever you choose, remember that you can't force a relationship. 

6. "Do you really have to...?"

This sentence can be used to ask, "Do you really need to buy that shirt?" "Do you really need to eat that chocolate?" "Do you really need to go on that vacation?" "Do you really need him/her in your life?"

You are dealing with someone who is controlling if he feels the need to comment on, question, or judge almost every aspect of your life. 

This type of behavior is not only irritating; it can also become extremely toxic over time. 

7. "I'm leaving if you don't do what I say." 

This is one of the twenty things he says that screams and begs you to dump his sorry ass and flee to the hills. 

This sentence can be formed in a variety of ways. 

He may want to sleep with you before you are ready, he may be jealous and try to prevent you from going out with your friends, or something similar, but the bottom line is that he wants you to do something you do not want to do. 

Never let a man force you to do something you don't want to do; no matter how minor or major, it's just not right. 

Threats, pleadings, and ultimatums should never be used in a relationship. 

8. "Why do you put on make-up?" 

This is a common and not so alarming question; men just don't get it, and most of the time they are just trying to compliment you and tell you that you are beautiful with or without make-up. 

Still, if they cross the line and think they can boss you around and try to forbid you from wearing make-up, it's just a symptom of a much larger problem. 

The man in your life should be an equal partner who respects your decisions, even if they don't make sense to him; he should not act as if he is in charge of you. 

9. “My ex used to…”

It doesn't matter whether he sings his ex's praises or trashes her; what matters is that his ex should not be a part of your current relationship. 

He shouldn't bring her up at all hours of the day, let alone compare the two of you. 

If ex-sentences are a regular part of your conversation, he obviously has some unresolved issues and wasn't ready to date you in the first place. 

Confront him about it and politely ask him to STFU about his ex. 

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10. "What on earth is a woman like you doing in a job like this?" 

This could be innocuous, offensive, or both. 

If it's innocuous, he probably has a crush on you and doesn't know what else to say. 

If it's rude, he's probably feeling threatened by you and wants to make you feel bad because you're one of the few women in that line of work. 

But who says that women can't be engineers, firefighters, or drivers? 

Remember that no matter how cute or charming he is, if he doesn't respect you as a colleague, he won't respect you as a woman, and you will never feel like his equal. 

11. "I have to confess, I didn't expect you to be so smart." 

Even though this sentence appears to be a compliment at first glance, it is actually a well-wrapped insult. 

It all depends on the situation and the type of man. 

Pay attention to his tone here, because he could be being sarcastic and saying it to mock something you said. 

He may also be the type of man who looks down on women and regards them as the weaker sex, which is incorrect on so many levels. 

12. "You see, my mom thinks that..."

If his mother dislikes you or constantly interferes in your relationship, you will have a hellish time in that relationship. 

You don't need a mama's boy who can't stand up for himself or you and who can't make a decision without first consulting mommy dearest. 

If things don't change miraculously, either you or he will end things because you can't stand it any longer, or he will because he is a wuss who lets his mother control his life. 

13. "You are much hotter, prettier, and smarter than any of your friends." 

Comparing a woman to others is inappropriate. Telling her she looks great, that she is hot, smart, and out of this world is always a welcome compliment. 

Real women empower other women, especially their friends; they do not trash-talk them and do not like it when others do. 

There is no need for him to use such language or to compare you to someone else. 

14. "I need some space." 

This could mean a variety of things depending on the context. 

However, if he is using space as a less painful way to express his desire for something casual or to end the relationship entirely, you should make the decision for him and leave.

You don't need someone who can't stand up and tell you the truth. 

Don't let him drag you along, and if he can't clearly define what space means to him, run as fast as you can. 

15. "I don't see myself having children, to be honest." 

This sentence means nothing if you are on the same page. However, if you want to start a family and have children someday, this is a major turnoff. 

Don't spend too much time with someone who doesn't share your values. No matter what you do, his opinion will not change. 

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16. "Is it that time of the month again?" 

He is essentially a person who is always correct, and whenever he annoys or upsets you, he blames it on your PMS. 

When you become emotional, the scenario is the same. It's as if you're emotionally deprived on all other days except when you have PMS. 

His actions are simply a reflection of his immaturity.

He doesn't understand you, and he can't accept responsibility for his actions, which could harm you on any given day. 

17. "You should believe in me and support me."

A guy who can keep a job for more than a month or so is attempting to persuade you that he will change. 

He never follows through on his promises, but he does expect your financial and emotional support. 

Just keep in mind that you are not a charity for the lost and lazy, and that he will emotionally and financially exhaust you rather than change his life and ways. 

18. "I can sense you don't truly love me."

This could be a genuine concern of his because your behavior has changed or you are aware that you no longer care about him, in which case you should be honest with him and let him know where he stands. 

The other, more likely, explanation for this statement is that he is extremely insecure. 

He requires constant reassurance that you love and care for him, and there is a good chance that no matter what you do or say to demonstrate that your feelings are genuine, his insecurities will grow stronger. 

The worst part is that his lack of trust in himself, you, and your relationship will suffocate all of your feelings for him. 

19. “Let’s just stay in.” 

The best part about being in a committed relationship is that you can just stay at home and have fun, cuddle and watch movies, or do something naughty between the sheets. 

The problem arises if that is all you do. 

You need variety, and staying at home all the time will become extremely boring after a while. 

If you're just starting out and he constantly wants to hang out (read: have sex) at his or your place and never makes any date plans, you're just a booty call, so be aware. 

20. "It's too far away; we'll discuss it later."

When you ask him to do something at the end of the week, month, or year, he always says, "It's too far away, we'll talk about it later." 

The truth is that you never discuss it, make concrete plans, and everything is done at the last minute and when it suits him. 

This type of behavior indicates that he does not see a future with you, at least not yet, and the question is whether he ever will.

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